I would like to take a moment to talk about this very important topic that has been on my mind all week!
To this day, growing up as a child in New York City, I can distinctly remember being picked on.
Called a distasteful name, teased about what I was wearing or asked to move my seat while riding the school bus.
These are a few examples where children find it in some way to pick on another child – especially when they find they are different from other children in some way; most of us have experienced this.
There were times when I would tell my mother; she would say that it will get better. By the end of the school term, those same children were now my best friends and we were looking forward to seeing each during the summer or interact at play dates or birthday parties.
School is supposed to be a place, where you send your children to learn academically, engage in activities to enrich being social with children of different backgrounds, establish friendships and have a little fun!
However, now it’s at a whole another level!!!! Parents across the country have a lot to consider when they send their children off to school, leaving them worried. Whether it’s to school or an outside activity, they may be picked on and parents are NOT taking it lightly.
The mistreatment can be awful for a child, especially with the Internet, social medias like Facebook and phone cameras used inappropriately. If it is repeated on a daily basis, it is considered BULLYING or Cyber-BULLYING .
When a child shows sadness, any type of anxiety or even withdrawing from the things that one time they loved because they have to go to school; being teased and perhaps being bullied can be the reason. The antagonizing effect on bullying is at an all time high. Reporting to school officials is necessary and gives the child the reassurance that you are doing something about it. It has to be taken seriously!!!!!!
Elementary schools, high schools, colleges and law officials across the country have put bullying guidelines in effect, even businesses. However, parents in the last few years have seen how extreme the bullying can get and how in the worst, WORST case scenario, children commit suicide or are being killed! The question is, are we doing enough?
Earlier this week, while watching the news; Harvey Weinstein (The Artist) was being interviewed on his latest documentary movie called, Bully. Due to the language in some of the scenes, the movie has been given a MPAA rating of ‘R‘. There has been a lot of discussion on seeing if the rating can be changed to PG-13. It more than likely not going to be changed; in spite of the petition with over names and celebrities lending their hand to help.
On my Facebook page, I’d asked for some feedback from my readers – overwhelming I received a lot of responses via messages and e-mails, where they did not want to post their comments and thoughts publicly. Which I can understand!
The concern with the MPAA rating, is that if children or teenagers are to see the movie, they will have to have a parent accompanying them. If seen by themselves, the movie may have a more of an impact. I am in agreement that a movie rating is important and if a parent should be present, attend with your child.
However, if parents feel that this specific movie is important for them to see without them – take them to the movie theatre, buy the tickets and let them go in by themselves.
When the movie is over, I suggest having a discussion! Just to talk about what they took from the movie, have they seen bullying occur and would they say something after seeing the movie. They may not admit that they may have participated in teasing or seen it, but they may now relate differently and consider the person being mistreated.
“Bullying is mistreatment to another person, which negativity contributes to a person’s life changing ….when repeated relentlessly it can be fatal”.
The movie hit theatres on March 30th, so if you as a parent have made the decision that your child should see the movie, take them. Sit with them or let them go by themselves…and TALK about it!
Update: As of 3/26, the movie will have no rating!
- What do I do if I suspect that my child is being bullied? (education.com)
- Ovation: Working To Change The MPAA’s Rating Of “Bully”. (diatribesandovations.com)
- The controversy over documentary ‘Bully’ (thehandiestone.typepad.com)